Reading – let’s collectively not make it a lost art
Do you have time to read this post and as a society, do we have time to reflect on our communication habits?
Society has become a ‘hurry-up’ ‘instant gratification’ culture. We collectively have so much on our minds and things to do we don’t in general take the time to do one thing really well.
Stop, breathe, look around.
Did you see the sunset?
Did you smell the flowers in bloom?
The scents of a fresh rain on the ground or the smile of your partner so many things taken for granted in our lives that really could be appreciated more.
Do you remember the art of writing letters and the joy of receiving a letter? Not an email! A letter -a handwritten letter!
About 10 yrs ago or longer we as a society started getting computers and thus came the ability to send and receive emails. Emails used to be great. You could take your time and write an email that would be sent instantaneously and received whenever that recipient opened their email. We still wrote and we still read and we still enjoyed communicating.
In the recent years, I have noticed that the mobile phone and tablets have replaced our computers or seem to be much more utilised than our computers. As such, if people receive your email they rarely write more than a 2-3 sentence reply if even that much! Worse than that, there seems the tendency to not actually read the email but rather to skip & skim around to whatever seems the important part to them and questions you’ve asked or thoughts you’ve written of remain unanswered.
I have friends who virtually never write emails but rather forward me emails of things they’ve found. Then those emails can border on spam since those people virtually never write an email but rather, send out 3-5-10 emails a day all forwarded links etc. On the rare occasion those people send an actual written email it can become lost in the mixture of all the forwards. (kind of like the boy who cried wolf) I personally have discovered that I am more inclined to pay attention to a forwarded email from those who rarely forward them.
I would much rather have a written email of the person’s thoughts any day over a forwarded one.
I am guilty of not replying to emails in a timely manner. I would prefer to send a real reply rather than a sentence or two unless it is just in answer to a basic question. I basically don’t do a full reply to an email unless I am at my computer and can give it my full attention. In this society of instant gratification this can seem an insult to some. I certainly don’t mean to be rude by not replying instantly but my thought is that a reply sent when I can give it my full attention is a quality reply and not a matter of a few sentences jotted off in a hurry.
What do you think? Please use the comment section below to tell of your experiences/expectations in the art of our electronic communications. I would love to hear from you!
Bonny,
Emails have made official life a lot easier but as to personal communications, I think meeting up or talking on the phone is best. I wrote a hand written letter about 5 years back to people who never had access to a computer or even if they did, didn’t know how to use it. I would love to get a letter now but the people to whom I wrote then are no longer alive.
Bonny, when you disappeared from my blogging screen for about six months and I looked for you on another site and even sent multiple messages with no replies, I thought it was time to say “Bye”- perhaps you didn’t want to be disturbed. So that may be another reason why communications break up.
Susie
Hi Bonny,
I have nominated you for the Spirit Animal Blogger award.
Please check out the link below:
https://susieshy45.wordpress.com/2015/12/31/spirit-animal-blog-award/
Susie
Hi Susie – I just saw your nomination – Thank you for thinking of me but I guess I have to pass this time – – trying to just get up with blogging again :)